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We've had a lot going on, some light and some dark, but such is life. The point is that we made and are making it.

I don't talk about my marriage much, because it's my marriage, but I want to share something today. I have a very strong personality. It has been molded by many occurrences in my life. Sometimes, with those that I love/tend to, I can be a little controlling. I have improved with my children and have learned that they are different--they are individuals. Though they came from me, they are not me. Though they are mine, they are themselves. So I have that aspect pretty much down. I am learning what to correct and what to let go. I'm learning what is "attitude" or rebellion and what is personality and a need for independence.

Now, why is it that I wasn't able to afford my husband, a grown ass man, the same peace and freedom? For whatever reason I would try to strong arm him into doing things the way I think they should be done. Needless to say, this has caused some major clashes. At first, couldn't understand what his problem was. Why didn't he just do what I said? I mean, hell, I'm right at least 99.9% of the time. Makes sense right? No. It doesn't. I can offer advice, but I cannot force my way on another human being--another ADULT. There are a lot of reasons I could offer on why I behaved this way, and most people would say that they understand, but that doesn't excuse it. He has to be allowed to learn from and make his own mistakes AND achieve things on his own and to his own credit.

As you know, I am a omo Osun and Olamide is omo Obatala. It has taken me a while and a lot of teaching from Iya to really understand what Obatala's energy in his children can be like. They are thinkers. They MUST process EVERYTHING. I'm very quick and decisive. I doesn't take me long to figure what needs to happen. One is no better than the other. When we are appreciative of the other's energy we balance each other VERY well, otherwise it can get a little thorny. Now understand, it's not that I'm always impatient all the time. Sometimes I just hate to watch what imbalanced over-thinking does to him. If something goes wrong from him, he has to process through it which usually means rotating the negative occurrence repeatedly. I know that it is something that he needs to do, but I want to save him.

Basically, we chose our Ori. This means that we are equipped and required to handle our development and elevation. We are also expected help others, but we are expect/required to exercise iwa pele. This means that  we are not to impose ourselves on others. We all own roads to travel.

I love my husband now in a way I don't think I did previously. I love him for him. With and without his faults, because he is equipped to work through and learn from those faults.